October Marks Child Abuse Prevention Month

30 09 2012

Once again this year, October will see efforts across Ontario to raise awareness about child abuse and to remind us that this is a preventable crime. The maltreatment of children, whether by physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, neglect, or subjecting children to the trauma of witnessing violence…whatever the form, child abuse is unacceptable. It’s a sad fact that this message requires repeating, but it does. The incidence of child abuse remains disturbingly high, and new threats are adding to the problem at alarming rates (online predators, the sexualization of childhood, child porn, involvement of minors in the sex trade). Headlines over this past year have once again exposed the vulnerability of children to adult criminal behaviour, and reminded us that many of these children cannot and do not speak up. Those who do stand a shockingly low chance of getting the specialized help they need. Some will never get help.

Statistics show that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually victimized before reaching age 18. Think about that the next time you drive by a school yard or see a group of children playing in a park.

We can change the statistics. We can do better for children who need our help. Add your voice to the fight against child abuse. Listen to children, and act when they reveal that they have been maltreated – it’s the law. Learn more about this community’s response to child abuse, lend your support, and encourage others to do the same. Wear a purple ribbon to heighten awareness about child abuse. Help eliminate the stigma attached to child abuse by having open conversations about this important issue. Children are counting on us to do that, not just in October but each and every day.

For more information, visit www.childabusecouncil.on.ca

 





Project Happiness

3 09 2012

“Don’t ask what the world needs.

Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it!

Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Howard Thurman

The worldwide appeal of this project has spread considerably over the past year, prompting me to remind readers to check in with their web site [www.projecthappiness.org] for updates and new resources. If you aren’t already familiar with the programs, films, or other activities that are part of Project Happiness, now is a great time to discover all that’s on offer.

The powerful video (you’ll find a link on their home page) provokes thinking about the themes that run throughout the project’s many elements…what is happiness? how do we achieve it? what does a life without happiness look like?

With the unspoken epidemic of stress and depression infiltrating every community, how can kids (of all ages) learn to generate their own happiness regardless of the situations they face?

The number of young people taking part in the project and resulting conversations is heartening. Rather than a single campaign “against” something (like bullying) this is a campaign FOR happiness…for everyone, at any time, in all corners of the world and in all life circumstances. It recognizes what is painful in life, and how many suffer as a result of that pain, and offers tangible ideas and tools aimed at helping us understand the nature of lasting happiness.

Puts a smile on your face just thinking about it, doesn’t it?





Dads Matter

15 06 2012

Happy Father’s Day, and a special shout out to fathers everywhere who empower their daughters…this wonderful salute to them is from Miss Representation…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eHKcO_C4JlE&feature=youtu.be





Campaign officially launched…and you can help!

9 04 2012

The Community Child Abuse Council’s Heart of the Open campaign kicked off officially today, beginning an unprecedented effort to raise funds in support of child abuse education, prevention, and treatment programs. Details about the campaign – and how you can help – are  posted on the Council’s web site: www.childabusecouncil.on.ca.

 

In partnership with the 2012 RBC Canadian Open, the Council is selling “inside the ropes” experience packages, corporate hospitality packages, and group tickets that get golf fans up close and into the action for the RBC Canadian Open’s return to the Hamilton Golf & Country Club, July 23-29. The Council’s team of volunteers will also be on-site at the tournament selling reuseable water bottles and purple awareness ribbons. Proceeds from all campaign activities will support vital prevention, education and treatment programs for child and youth victims of abuse and trauma.

A sizeable lead-off gift from RBC will enable the Council to enhance its current programs and services, but our community has an opportunity to join with RBC and realize an even greater result by supporting the Council’s campaign. Children as young as 3 years of age are currently waiting several months for trauma treatment, and the education and prevention initiatives so crucial to fighting child abuse are in need of financial investment. Remember, 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually victimized before reaching adulthood. Here in the Hamilton area, that translates into a significant

number whose lives are affected – shouldn’t we be able to help each and every one of them?

We may never see another opportunity like this one to respond as a community and invest in the lives of our youngest and most vulnerable members – please check out the many ways you can help to support the campaign, and help the Council in its efforts to create a community free of child abuse

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The Heart of the OPEN

1 04 2012

The eyes of the golfing world will be on Hamilton this July as the RBC Canadian Open returns to the Hamilton Golf & Country Club.

But the heart of the Open, this year, is linked to helping child and youth victims of sexual abuse and trauma here in our community. RBC has chosen the Community Child Abuse Council as the Local Charity Partner for the 2012 RBC Canadian Open, and committed a sizeable financial investment to help the organization in its mission – to reduce the incidence and impact of child abuse and to promote the safe and healthy development of children. This is truly a gift wrapped in hope, and represents a significant opportunity for this community to make great strides in its support of vulnerable and victimized youngsters. By supporting the Council in its partnership with the RBC Canadian Open, the Hamilton region has an unprecedented chance to turn an already generous donation from RBC into something bigger – and to see the legacy of the 2012 Canadian Open be a lasting one for local children’s mental health.

The Council is about to launch a fundraising drive – The Heart of the OPEN Campaign – to engage the support of the community and to involve Hamiltonians in this partnership with RBC and the Canadian Open. Some of the campaign’s activities are directly tied to the Open, including advance ticket sales, exclusive VIP and “inside the ropes” experience packages, and on-site sales. Limited edition hats will be sold in area RBC branches in the weeks leading up to the Open with proceeds going to the campaign. Other campaign efforts are bringing together some of RBC’s corporate clients, community leaders, and friends of the Council in a range of fundraising initiatives aimed at demonstrating that the Hamilton community can and will step up to support child abuse prevention, education, and treatment in partnership with RBC.

Campaign proceeds will help enhance treatment programs for child and youth victims of sexual abuse, expand parent support groups, and invest in proven prevention initiatives. The Community Child Abuse Council is unique in providing these specialized services in the Hamilton community, and continuously works to increase its capacity so that all children needing this help can receive it. A waiting list for treatment has been an ongoing challenge, with children as young as 3 years of age often waiting several months for clinical services. A robust campaign success will also enable the Council to secure a permanent home for its programs and services.

Statistics show that one in three girls and one in six boys is sexually victimized before reaching adulthood. In Hamilton, Chief Glenn De Caire of Hamilton Police Service has publicly referred to rising rates of sexual assaults against children and women, and child pornography, as “troubling” given otherwise declining rates of violent crime in the city. The trauma resulting from sexual victimization can have a lifelong and significant impact if not treated early and effectively. The scars of abuse can last decades and can impact generations.

The 2012 RBC Canadian Open will be held July 23-29 at Hamilton Golf & Country Club

An energetic campaign team comprised of volunteers from all corners of the community is now hard at work to ensure the success of this fundraising initiative. Their efforts, along with the generosity of RBC, bring much-needed attention to child maltreatment and a vital financial investment in the future of local children and youth.  To find out more about The Heart of the OPEN Campaign, to volunteer, or to support the cause, watch the Council’s web site for details ( www.childabusecouncil.on.ca). If you’re a golfer, a golf fan, or know others who are, you can help make the excitement of the Open (July 23 – 29 last long after the trophy has been claimed and the crowds have dispersed…be part of the Open and please support the Council’s campaign and help to make sure the legacy left by the 2012 RBC Canadian Open is one that invests in children and youth well into the future. If we as a community can match RBC’s investment we can take huge strides that are long overdue. Thank you!





International Women’s Day

8 03 2012

Regrettably, I haven’t been blogging much of late…a full plate has kept me busily occupied (and quite content) but finding time to blog has been a challenge. Today, however, I had to share a wonderful link to inspire and to acknowledge, to support and to inform…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=KQOVUK68mTg

We’ve come a long way since the first IWD, but there is still much to do. I am ever-more convinced of this and acutely aware of the remaining challenges with each day spent working with the brave youngsters, dedicated staff, and generous supporters at the Community Child Abuse Council. To be clear, violence against women or children is not “a women’s issue”. It will, however, take our collective voices at full volume to change the unacceptable reality that 1 in 3 girls (and 1 in 5 boys) will be sexually victimized before adulthood.

Thanks Ayesha, for reminding us to shake the tree.





Classroom exercise sparks bullying debate

3 11 2011

This one has me scratching my head. Let’s see where you weigh in on the debate raging about a New York teacher’s efforts to enlighten her students about the impact of bullying…

If you haven’t already heard about this (now “viral”) item, it’s bouncing around the online news outlets and the blogosphere with lightning speed.

A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bullies another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.

So what’s the debate? Well, one camp is applauding what they see as a valuable and lasting lesson about the impact of bullying. The other camp is suggesting that this exercise gives bullies reinforcement for their actions by confirming the hurt they can cause. The former notion is an easy one…make an impression on kids, get them thinking about a serious subject, leave them to ponder their position. The latter, however, would appear to be rooted in a firm belief that bullies are a) not already aware of the effect they have, and/or b) motivated by inflicting hurt or harm. It’s certainly not the most optimistic point of view.

The thumbs-up side (supporting this teacher’s exercise as a positive one) appears to be leading the debate by a substantial margin, judging by the online posts and comments I have sampled. That there is discussion, dialogue, or debate at all is good thing. Feel free to add your thoughts.





You can’t be what you can’t see

23 10 2011

Here’s an exciting and worthy project aimed at empowering young women and changing the portrayal of young girls in the media…MissRepresentation addresses this in several important ways. If you’ve looked closely at a young girl lately you may have noticed the jeans, the makeup, the hair…much of it a predictable response to perceieved expectations that, for many, go hand in hand with being young and female in our society. Too many young girls spend tremendous effort and money trying to live up to something they’ll never achieve — and who wants them to? The potential cost of these misguided priorities is substantial – their confidence, their time, and a distraction away from the other skills or hobbies or attributes they could be pursuing. In fact, some young girls are literally dying to live up to “an image.”

Driven by the message delivered in the film Miss Representation, a documentary that premiered at the 2011 Sundance Film Festival, the project is “a call-to-action campaign that seeks to empower women and girls to challenge limiting labels in order to realize their potential”. Among its goals are the eradication of gender stereotypes and the creation of lasting cultural and sociological change. The project includes an educational curriculum, film screenings, and an action agenda with options for supporting the campaign.


Check out the details at www.missrepresentation.org

 





October is Child Abuse Prevention Month

2 10 2011

To educate yourself about child abuse, and for information about what each of us can do, please visit www.childabusecouncil.on.ca.

To support the work of the Community Child Abuse Council, marking its 35th anniversary this year, join the fun on October 21st at the Mad Hatter’s Ball: www.the2011mhb.com.





Mental Health Week

29 04 2011

May 1 to 7 marks the 60th anniversary of Mental Health Week here in Ontario. The Canadian Mental Health Association offers these tips for mental fitness:

  • learn ways to cope with negative thoughts
  • do one thing at a time
  • exercise
  • enjoy hobbies
  • “collect” positive emotional moments

For more about these tips, and information about Mental Health Week events and materials, visit this web site: www.mentalhealthweek.ca