Old Spice?

9 11 2010

Marketing magazine recently reported that Canadians are fans of the current Old Spice advertising campaign (“You like the way I look. Of course you do.”). Not only was it the most recognized campaign, it was also the best liked in this country (least liked? The family chasing the Dairy Queen Blizzard truck).

Flash back for a moment to 1965 and imagine the likelihood of either of these marketing campaigns being successful. A naked guy taunting us from the shower? A family drive with Mom on the hood of the car trying to grab hold of an ice cream truck? Doubtful these would ever have been conceived, let alone aired and memorable. My point here is that things have changed considerably in the way marketing reaches us. More disturbing to me is the change in how it affects us, and what has become acceptable to so many of us.

The so-called “prime time” viewing slots on television have opened up to include programming that once was restricted to much later hours and intended for adults only. Shows like “Pimp My Ride” and “Desperate Housewives” are now airing when young kids are still in their living rooms. Not that long ago, Brooke Shields caused a tremendous uproar by exposing her navel and midrift in an advertising campaign. Bratz dolls have sexed up their wardrobes to the point that once-fashionable Barbie has now donned similar garb in order to stay “trendy” and competitive. The cast of Glee on the cover of GQ magazine has been in the news for its racy portrayal of highschool kids, and children have come to know firefighters in most communities as heroes and calendar pinups.

There’s only one common element in all this, and it’s money. Whatever sells goes. And we buy it. Every lowdown, inappropriate and disrespectful moment of it. Maybe our filters are so tired from trying to screen and distinguish among all this stuff that they just don’t work anymore. Or maybe we’ve just become numb to all the skin and sex and selling. Old Spice sales reportedly are up, and Bratz dolls are again being touted as a must-have item for the holidays this year. Trouble is, child abuse is up too. Domestic assaults are still a plague on families. Pornography still nets kids and ruins lives. The links are obvious. What we do about it is trickier.

Stop advertising? No. Censor more of this stuff? Governments won’t do it. Quit spending our money on the products and services that try to sell to kids with sex and violence? Now that just might work. I spoke to a mother the other day who had been trying to explain to her 8-year old why a particular mannequin’s outfit was inappropriate for school (mini skirt, lacy tights, spaghetti strap/sequin top). It’s not easy. I admire her taking a stand though, and she showed that it can be done (and done at any age) with patience and love. She told me she’d rather put up with a few tantrums than risk the alternative.

Can we find more ways to reinforce the appropriate, and gradually reduce the inappropriate, from our lives and the lives of young children? Can we do a better job of turning trashy TV into teachable moments for kids? I think so. And I tip my hat to all those parents out there who are trying to do just that every day. Their task is daunting, and they could use our help and reinforcement. Whether you have children or not, take opportunities to voice your disapproval when the merchandise in the next store you visit falls well short of the mark for appropriateness. As I often hear teachers and parents telling children, “use your voice”.

Photo: spreadshirt.com





From Dr. Seuss to Porn

20 10 2010

Parent Evening

The Community Child Abuse Council of Canada presents a special evening for parents on Monday, October 25 as part of its Child Abuse Prevention Month activities. The free evening event features Cordelia Anderson, a recognized expert in child maltreatment. Anderson will engage parents, caregivers and foster parents in a dialogue about what she calls our “sexually toxic” society and how to help children navigate this potentially dangerous landscape.

Pre-registration is required: call (905) 523-1020 ext. 14 or visit the Council’s web site: www.childabusecouncil.on.ca for more information.

On Tuesday, October 26 Cordelia Anderson will be the featured speaker at an all-day symposium for professionals. The focus of the day includes the sexual development of children and the impact of today’s cultural norms and sexually permissive media. For full information visit www.childabusecouncil.on.ca or call the Council: (905) 523-1020 ext. 14. Registration fee is $75.00 per person and space is limited.





How Tweet It Is

7 09 2010

I have been checking out ideas with two of the younger members in our family and am delighted with what I’m learning about their online savvy and their level of empowerment in using the web to their advantage (yes, they have had the requisite warnings about the dangers lurking in the world wide spider web). For these young people, prepping for the return to school has been as much about upgrading software and putting a new fashion “skin” on their cell phones as about reading lists and classroom schedules. Thankfully, their thumbs stayed nimble over the summer months – all those texts!

They are fast becoming adept online researchers and barely remember a time when you couldn’t “Google something”. Digital downloads are replacing the library stacks and emoticons ♥  have become the grafitti of choice. They are in touch, tuned-in, and capable of instant communication and connections. They are learning the language, honing their skills, and developing their navigational expertise while watching trends and gaining access to information in new and mind boggling ways. And they are almost completely unaware of how the world ever functioned without all of this – it’s their everyday, their “same old”.

How many hours, I wonder, will they spend online in the next ten years? How much time will they eventually devote to the learning curve required for keeping up, staying connected? Will they be smart about their online presence? Can they avoid the risks that are “out there”? If they let me, this  guide and advisor will be asking these and other questions along the way. I’ll share my concerns and delight in all the shared learning I hope we’ll do together. Like parents, caregivers, and concerned family members everywhere, I will hope to be helpful.

Their journey continues. I wouldn’t trade places with them (Me? Sweet 16? Again?) but how exciting it is to have a seat up front with a great view of all the action – seatbelt firmly fastened.

 “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” (Maya Angelou)